The Defining Decade
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"The future isn't written in the stars. There are no guarantees. So claim your adulthood. Be intentional. Get to work. Pick your family. Do the math. Make your own certainty. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You are deciding your life right now."
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"The twentysomething years are real time and ought to be lived that way."
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"I always advise twentysomethings to take the job with the most capital."
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"Weak ties are like bridges you cannot see all the way across, so there is no telling where they might lead."
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"Not making choices isn't safe. The consequences are just further away in time, like in your thirties or forties."
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"Feeling better doesn't come from avoiding adulthood, it comes from investing in adulthood."
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"The one thing I have learned is that you can't think your way through life. The only way to figure out what to do is to do—something."
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"Confidence doesn't come from the inside out. It moves from the outside in."
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"Being confused about choices is nothing more than hoping that maybe there is a way to get through life without taking charge."
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"Goals have been called the building blocks of adult personality, and it is worth considering that who you will be in your thirties and beyond is being built out of goals you are setting for yourself today."
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Introduction
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The Defining Decade is a nonfiction book by clinical psychologist Meg Jay arguing that the twenties are a formative decade for work, love, identity, and health, blending research with case studies from therapy and teaching.[1] The book was first published in the United States by Twelve on 17 April 2012.[2] Library catalogues record the first-edition collation as xxvii, 241 pages and list the hardcover ISBN 978-0-446-56176-1.[3] A revised trade paperback with new material was issued on 16 March 2021.[1]
Chapter summary
This outline follows the Twelve first-edition hardcover (2012), ISBN 978-0-446-56176-1; chapter titles per the first-edition table of contents.[3][4]
✍️ 1 – Preface: the defining decade.
⏳ 2 – Introduction: real time.
I – Work
🎓 3 – Identity capital.
🕸️ 4 – Weak ties.
💡 5 – The unthought known.
📱 6 – My life should look better on facebook.
🧩 7 – The customized self.
II – Love
🗣️ 8 – An upmarket conversation.
🧑🤝🧑 9 – Picking your family.
🏠 10 – The cohabitation effect.
⚖️ 11 – On dating down.
😊 12 – Being in like.
III – The brain and the body
🔭 13 – Forward thinking.
🧘 14 – Calm yourself.
🪟 15 – Outside in.
🤝 16 – Getting along and getting ahead.
🧍 17 – Every body.
🧮 18 – Do the math.
🔮 19 – Epilogue: will things work out for me?.
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